TEXT: GENESIS 2:24,
EPHESIANS 5:25-33
God ordained marriage so
that husband and wife could be helpful to themselves. Marriage is also for
companionship, couple should see themselves as one mind, one soul operating in
two bodies.
(Gen 2:18)God created Eve
for Adam as help meet, to love and to share things together. God did not create
her to be Adam's maid or servant.
God took out Adam's rib
to create Eve. It is not because God ran out of resources to make Eve, but to
proof a point to human beings. (That they are one). On this note, men should
see their wives as their equal half rather than seeing them as their
subordinates.
The first reason why God
instituted marriage is for companionship and mutual relationship. For this to
be achieved there must be effective communication between couple.
There are other reasons
why marriage institution is established, but if the above reason is not met,
other reasons that will be discussed later may be difficult to meet. (Gen
2:20-23) the scripture says “but for Adam: no suitable helper was found” this
is so because Adam could not relate or communicate with the animals because
they have nothing in common. When God finished creating Eve, Adam said “this is
now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.”
When you are in marriage
institution, your spouse should be seen as the bone of your bones and flesh of
your flesh, this makes living together as couple easy and peaceful. Seeing your
spouse as your “better half” would make peace, love and harmony to reign in the
family. The home would be free from fight, discord, anger, hatred and
unforgivable spirit.
OTHER REASONS WHY GOD
ORDAINED MARRIAGE
- For
fruitfulness (Genesis 1:28) to have children.
- To
bear each others burden (helping in each others weakness) where your
spouse is weak; you may be strong there, so use your strength to cover his
weakness.
- To
raise and train children in the way of the lord.
- To
help each other financially, spiritually, and morally.
- For
sexual satisfaction, so that there would not be any cause for adultery.
(1 Corinthians 7:2-5
- To
love and care for each other
HOW COUPLES CAN FULFIL
GOD'S PURPOSE FOR MARRIAGE (TWO BECOMING ONE)
Couple are one mind and
soul operating in two physical bodies. They can fulfil the law of “two coming
together to become one” by doing the following:
- They
should make Christ the solid rock of the marriage.
- They
should see themselves as equal. (Don't think you are better or
knowledgeable than your spouse)
- They
should know how to settle their disagreement mutually without involving
other parties.
- They
need to know the right channel to seek counsel on issues that concern
their home. If need be, godly counsel from the pastor would be better. (This
should be the last result.)
- They
should not keep record of wrong against themselves. Instead it should be
addressed.
- They
should be able to say the “magic word” “sorry” to each other without
problem.
- There
should be effective communication for both parties to be able to pour out
their minds without further problem or fear.
- The
in-laws should know their boundaries and maintain it.
- As
couple your spouse should know everything about you without holding back
some “secret”
- They
should both discuss how to run the home and how to discipline the
children.
- They
should love their spouse as themselves. (Ephesians 5:29)
- There
should be mutual trust in the home.
- There
should be tolerance, as there is no perfect being. What you want your
spouse to improve on should be discussed politely with love.
- Couple
should respect each other, remember; respect is reciprocal. It should not
be one sided.
- couple should make sure that their weaknesses are known and accepted by each other, and try as much as possible to see beyond their weaknesses, and allow their area of strength to overrule their weaknesses. (In other word; accept each others weakness, love your spouse even with the weakness, because nobody is perfect).
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