ARE YOU A MENTOR OR A TORMENTOR?

TEXT: 1 SAMUEL 17: 38- 50

³⁸ Then Saul dressed David in his own tunic. He put a coat of armour on him and a bronze helmet on his head. ³⁹ David fastened on his sword over the tunic and tried walking around, because he was not used to them.

“I cannot go in these,” he said to Saul, “because I am not used to them.” So he took them off. ⁴⁰ Then he took his staff in his hand, chose five smooth stones from the stream, put them in the pouch of his shepherd’s bag and, with his sling in his hand, approached the Philistine.

⁴¹ Meanwhile, the Philistine, with his shield bearer in front of him, kept coming closer to David. ⁴² He looked David over and saw that he was little more than a boy, glowing with health and handsome, and he despised him. ⁴³ He said to David, “Am I a dog, that you come at me with sticks?” And the Philistine cursed David by his gods. ⁴⁴ “Come here,” he said, “and I’ll give your flesh to the birds and the wild animals!”

⁴⁵ David said to the Philistine, “You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the LordAlmighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. ⁴⁶ This day the Lord will deliver you into my hands, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head. This very day I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds and the wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel. ⁴⁷ All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the Lord saves; for the battle is the Lord’s, and he will give all of you into our hands.”

⁴⁸ As the Philistine moved closer to attack him, David ran quickly toward the battle line to meet him. ⁴⁹ Reaching into his bag and taking out a stone, he slung it and struck the Philistine on the forehead. The stone sank into his forehead, and he fell face down on the ground.

⁵⁰ So David triumphed over the Philistine with a sling and a stone; without a sword in his hand he struck down the Philistine and killed him.

The Merriam Webster online dictionary defines a mentor as a trusted counsellor or a guide. A mentor is the one that helps you to get to the highest level of your career or your life in general.

A mentor works on you to bring out the best in you, he or she helps to bring out your authentic power, call your inner power out from within and brush, polish, shape, dress, refine or sharpen it to become a “rare gem.”

A mentor encourages, trains, and impacts you to become a better version of yourself- he or she helps you to develop new idea, skills and knowledge.

A mentor makes all effort within his or her reach to add value to you and make sure that you become successful in your chosen filed.

A mentor is a personal advocate in the secret that the evidence of his or her mentorship will become evident through the life of the mentee without having the feeling of insecurity or jealousy. A mentor leaves you a lot better than he or she met you.

A tormentor on the other hand is the one who causes repeated emotional pain, distress or annoyance to another. A tormentor does not want anybody around him to be successful.

When anybody tries to do something better than him (the tormentor), he gets jealous and angry and will look for every means to jeopardise the effort of the tormented.

Some Christian leaders, departmental heads in the church are tormentors. They get jealous and feel insecure as soon as anybody under them starts excelling. Instead of them to support and help build such person as a mentor will do, they will use all available channels to pull him or her down- this is ungodly!

Some leaders will bet on their lives never to see any of their subordinates successful. Instead of being a mentor to their subordinate they will become his or her tormentor by making life miserable and unbearable for the helpless subordinate. A tormentor would device all mechanism to frustrate his subordinates. He can demote him or her; he can remove the subordinate from any position that will accelerate his progress. Some wicked leaders (Tormentor) can go to the extent of plotting to kill the excelling subordinate.

In first Samuel 16 when God told Samuel to anoint David as the king, David was appointed by Saul to be playing the instrument for him. Saul was the king and David was his “music boy.”

“David came to Saul and entered his service. Saul liked him very much, and David became one of his armour bearers. Then saul sent word to Jesse saying “Allow David to remain in my service for I am PLEASED WITH HIM.” (1 Samuel 16: 21-22).

David continued in Saul’s service. There was no rivalry or discord between them until David killed Goliath and people started to praise David. Saul became jealous and wanted David dead by all means.

“⁸ Saul was very angry; this refrain displeased him greatly. “They have credited David with tens of thousands,” he thought, “but me with only thousands. What more can he get but the kingdom?” ⁹ And from that time on Saul kept a close eye on David.

¹⁰ The next day an evil spirit from God came forcefully on Saul. He was prophesying in his house, while David was playing the lyre, as he usually did. Saul had a spear in his hand ¹¹ and he hurled it, saying to himself, “I’ll pin David to the wall.” But David eluded him twice.

(1 Samuel 18: 8-11).

Saul’s once “undying love” for David became hatred as soon as David’s fame started to spread. The plan of God came to pass on David and he triumph over Saul despite all odds. Learn from this account, as a leader do not be a tormenting leader to your followers, because either you like it or not the plan of God will come to pass in their lives.

 A tormentor will be disgraced and a mentor will be promoted and be blessed. Be a mentor and not a tormentor for God will reward you accordingly.